WashPost story on Millennials and marriage

This Sunday morning, Amazon.com’s Washington Post tweeted a dusty three-day-old story about Millennials eschewing big weddings for small or no ceremonies, and “sharing” the wedding with friends and family via Facebook. The story’s headlined, “Forget the big wedding. More of today’s couples ‘include’ you through Facebook.

On the one hand, I was optimistic to see young people forgoing the pomp and materialism of what weddings have become. How many couples postpone marriage and cohabitant, fornicate, living publicly in sin, because they can’t “afford” to get married? Or at least, can’t afford what modern American culture tells them a proper wedding SHOULD be.

But the more I read on, the more apparent it became that things haven’t changed SO much — the marriage is still all about them, the couples, nay, the two individuals marrying.

Like their parents, Millennials view marriage as a contract, not a covenant. A man can enter into and terminate contracts, whereas a covenant only ends with the death of one or both parties. Marriage is about children. How do civilizations die? They stop having children. In summer 2016 the media reported that the US fertility rate’s fallen to its lowest point since record keeping began a hundred years ago.

Husband and wife are consecrated to a purpose above and beyond themselves, ... to populate earth and heaven

Husband and wife are consecrated to a purpose above and beyond themselves, … to populate earth and heaven

None of the Millennials profiled by Amazon married in an ecclesial community building, much less a Catholic Church. Instead they got married at courthouses or town halls.

Let me regale you with some of the more horrifying and telling quotes:

“We picked up the papers from the courthouse — it was really easy — and left to Starbucks”

“We didn’t want to make a big deal out of it. It was nice,” she says. “A little bit romantic even.”

“Weddings … aren’t really meant for you. They’re meant for your family and your friends”

And last but not least, the quote that would make any German bishop proud,

“The main point of a wedding is to ask people to support your journey”

So we may see more weddings as Millennials pare down the pomp and circumstance, but these are still a people who embrace abortion, contraception, redefining marriage to include men marrying men and women marrying women (but curiously not couples of three or more, or next of kin, or children, etc.).

Finally, I noted that writer Megan McDonough didn’t interview any homosexual or lesbian Millennial couples for this article. They dykes, I can see, would like going cheap on weddings. They’ve got several cats to keep fed, after all. Veterinarian visits aren’t cheap. But the homos love a big, fabulous bourgeois party.

Mazel tov, Millennials.

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Should I even be surprised: Front page story on teen heroin addict pretends fathers don’t exist

The big story on the Sunday front page of a suburban newspaper: Former teen heroin addict celebrates one year sober.

Reporter Melissa Silverberg pens a respectable feel-good story about a typical suburban teen with an unpronounceable Polish last name. We read about how mom and little sister are also still recovering from the roller coaster that now-20-year-old Chris Pzybylo took them on. There’s video where Chris describes how he started heroin and what withdrawal is like.

Towards the end of the story, we’re told,

Chris’s brother, Sebastian, now 18, declined to be interviewed, but family members said they have spent the year rebuilding their relationship.

But we never hear about dad.

The words ‘father’ and ‘dad’ never appear in this story.

What IS buried 10 paragraphs in? The reason for Chris’ addiction and all the pain in his life, and his family’s:

But by middle school things were changing. His parents had divorced. He became less interested in school. He started smoking marijuana and drinking a little. Genevieve chalked it up to normal rebellious teen behavior.

Divorce. Dad is gone. Father out of the picture. Son falls apart and turns to heroin for false happiness.

Why is this ignored? Did Silverberg and her editors deem it irrelevant? Was there any attempt to reach the father? Why did the parents separate? Was there abuse, neglect, adultery? We don’t know. Silverberg buried the lede, and her head in the sand.

I supposed we shouldn’t be surprised, given this age of “I can marry whomever I want and marriage is whatever I want it to be.” Divorce was once a scandal. Satan knows to destroy the family to steal souls, and he nearly stole Chris Przybylo’s.

Today’s epistle (Jas. 1:22-27) reminds us,

Religion clean and undefiled before God and the Father is this: To visit the fatherless and widows in their tribulation, and to keep one’s self unspotted from this world.

Pray for this young man and his family. Pray that his parents may be reconciled. Pray for marriage, and pray for the family.

Holy family, pray for us!

Catholic Illinois pols voted “yes” to redefining marriage because of Pope Francis?!

I may have to go to confession. I may have taken the Lord’s name in vain when I read this. I can’t remember.

Catholic Illinois lawmakers told the Chicago Tribune that they voted to redefine marriage to include sufferers of same-sex attraction because of Pope Francis.

They cite his summer 2013 “who am I to judge?” remarks about gays. Of course, we should be cognizant of the fact that his Holiness was speaking in a specific context, but when you speak off-the-cuff, shit like this happens, if you’ll pardon my French. (Aside: I pride myself on having coined the phrase “poop chute politics” for the whole pro-sodomy rights movement.)

Hat tip to PewSitter who linked to this story from Protect the Pope (who in turn linked to the Trib article).

<cracking my knuckles> So let’s have some fun with our brethren’s quotes:

“As a Catholic follower of Jesus and the pope, Pope Francis, I am clear that our Catholic religious doctrine has at its core love, compassion and justice for all people,” said Rep. Linda Chapa LaVia, a Democrat from Aurora who voted for the bill after spending much of the summer undecided.

Yes, it does! Love, compassion and justice for the homosexual, the child molester, the murderer, the Hitlers and Stalins of the world, even the Obamas of the world. That doesn’t mean we give them legal protection to commit sodomy, rape, murder, theft, etc.

House Speaker Michael Madigan also cited the pope’s comments in explaining his support for the measure.

“For those that just happen to be gay — living in a very harmonious, productive relationship but illegal — who am I to judge that they should be illegal?” the speaker said.

We can EASILY extend this logic beyond The Gays to polygamy, or adult-child sexual relationships too. If you believe in LGBT equality, then aren’t you COMPELLED to extend “marriage equality” to the bisexual woman who loves both a man and a woman and wants to marry both? Eventually, the law WILL extend legal protection to those relationships, it can’t not. Eventually someone’s going to sue in the name of “due process” or “equal rights” and how is a court going to say no?

The “Progressive” takes a Darwinian/Marxist view towards freedom/liberty/rights. What they’re blind to is that as these sins escalate in number, they’re more akin to a roller coaster car going uphill, unaware when they get to the top, things are going to go downhill very quickly.

So they can point to nine or 10 years of gay marriage in Massachusetts and say, “See, society’s just fine!” They swallow the “fags and dykes are just like you and I!” junk they’ve been spoon-fed by the culture over the past 15 to 20 years but especially the last decade.

As has been said elsewhere, the redefinition of marriage started 50-years ago with acceptance of no-fault divorce, abortion, contraception, and the “sexual revolution.” We’re already reaping the fruits of that. Look no further than the black community to see what happens when fathers don’t matter anymore, or don’t stick around. Is it any wonder that it was black voters who helped defeat marriage redefinition referendums so many times? Is it any wonder that it was black Democratic lawmakers in Springfield who held out about voting for redefining marriage? They know what’s in the cards when the basic cell of society gets cancer. The cards don’t lie, just like Miss Cleo told us.

The dam has sprung leaks here and there. Eventually, the whole edifice WILL give way, whether it collapses under its own weight or someone else (probably Mohammedans) dynamite it.

Favorite quotes from Arch. Muller’s marriage essay

Fr. Z’s Blog shared a L’Osservatore Romano essay by Archbishop Muller on divorce and the sacraments. Here are some of my favorite quotes from the essay:

Those who think according to the “spirit of the world” (1 Cor 2:12) cannot understand the sacramentality of marriage.

An objectively false appeal to mercy also runs the risk of trivializing the image of God, by implying that God cannot do other than forgive.

God’s mercy does not dispense us from following his commandments or the rules of the Church.  Rather it supplies us with the grace and strength needed to fulfil them, to pick ourselves up after a fall, and to live life in its fullness according to the image of our heavenly Father.

Same sex “marriage” and hetero polyamorous relationships

Forget government shutdowns, the top story on NYPost.com this morning is headlined, “Open relationships growing among couples.” Creeping incrementalism at work. Polyamory is the “next wave” in the redefinition of marriage.

I’ve always thought the push for “gay marriage” was odd because gay men are not monogamous. One of the topics I hope to explore over time with this blog is, “Things gay men won’t talk about in polite company.”

Men with same sex attraction are overwhelmingly sluts. Gay men cheat on their boyfriends. It’s almost expected. I never did. But I had boyfriends tell me, “You will eventually,” not because of my character, but simply because I was a gay man. “Open relationships” are common even among “committed” gay couples.  They have “don’t ask, don’t tell” agreements or “only play together” with a third guy. Honestly I couldn’t tally up how many sex partners I’ve had, and that’s not something I’m proud of. A friend once confided that he’d had 60 partners by age 19 – and this was in the late 90s, before widespread Internet usage made hooking up REALLY easy. Is it any wonder that AIDS tore through gay men in the 1980s like a tornado in a trailer park?

I am the product of a committed relationship. My parents have a wonderful marriage. The thought of my dad cheating is inconceivable, as is the thought of them divorcing. Raised in that environment, with a solid understanding of what a relationship between two (not three, or 10) people should be, I got clothes-lined when I tried dating guys.

Some would say I’m just bitter, or self-loathing, or whatever. I accept the Church’s teaching that my same sex attraction is not in itself sinful, but IS inherently disordered, and that acting on that attraction, in thought or deed, is sinful and evil. I’ve lived that lifestyle, I know its consequences first-hand. There’s nothing “happy” about it. It’s a lie. Two individuals with inherently disordered tendencies do not a relationship make, sanctioned by the state or not. A society that redefines marriage is sawing off the very branch it’s sitting on.

Carry your cross with obedience, as Christ did. Pray for the conversion of sinners, and as our pontiffs have reminded us, always have hope.Image